Once upon a time, not that long ago, there was a tube of water-based lube sitting all alone on the pharmacy shelf. We live in a happier time now, when drug stores and the Internet offer oh so many lube options. If you venture to a sex shop online or in real life, the number of choices can be staggering. Many people already see lube as an important and fun addition to our sex lives, but there is still plenty of misinformation out there about this slippery substance.
With the threat of this moment skidding to a devastating halt, you need to MacGyver your way out of Dry City and into Pleasure Town -- and fast. Coconut oil has become the Big Fat Greek Windex of the yoga-and-kale set. Got dry skin? Rub coconut oil on it. Dull hair? Coconut oil mask.
If you are going to have anal sex there is no other requirement than having a good anal lube. Being able to have a great anal sex experience with your partner depends mostly on how many time have you done it already. But using anal specifically made lube can help considerably reduce the pain and increase pleasure due to their texture and ingredients. If you don't use condom for anal sex, go for all natural coconut oil as lube. If you use condom, then thick silicone based lubes are the best as they don't dry out and last longer.
A few weeks ago, some friends and I got into a conversation around sexual pleasure, likes, dislikes, and everything in between. While having this discussion, I made a joke about how "lube keeps you able to go to work the next day," to which the table laughed. To my surprise, my friends had a range of opinions about whether people should use lube, what type they should use, and how some like the "feeling of rubbing" when less lube is used. As someone who works in HIV prevention and treatment, I totally understand the importance of enjoying sex. But I also know it is even more important to make sure one is doing so safely -- and lube can play a major role in that process.